2016 was a very significant year for me:
- I wrote on Classically Ivy throughout the year.
- I wrote for different blogs and websites.
- I read poetry for audiences on three different occasions.
- I read books about writing and took some online classes as well.
- I learned a lot about social media utilization, and
- I self-published an ebook, a collection of poetry.
It was also significant because I did not date/get into any relationship throughout the year.
It wasn’t a deliberate act. I certainly wasn’t walking around with a sign around my neck which read ‘Keep Off!’
It just happened that way.
And you know what? It was great.
Now, I am not against relationships. In fact, I will grudgingly admit that despite my experiences, watching movies such as ‘Love Actually’ manages to warm up the insides of my cold dead heart ❤️
What happened was that I was too focused on things like completing stories and poems, scheduling posts and other writing-related activities.
I was busy being a writer and blissfully happy being busy.
Without the distractions of wondering why ‘he’ didn’t call, or why I wasn’t making ‘him’ happy, I discovered that I have the capacity to be creative, and to be consistent with the creativity.
I have been judged to be a commitment-phobe, and assumptions have been made that I am single because I am too ‘picky’.
2016 taught me that I can commit to writing and blogging even when I don’t feel like it because the end result-the satisfaction of writing things which people enjoy-is worth the trouble.
So, I can commit to a relationship…but it has to be worth my while.
What lessons did you learn in 2016?
Thanks for reading!
©Ivie M. Eke 2016.